Texting And Dating

Text messaging can be a nice and unobtrusive way to get to know some one. I used to like talking on the phone, but now a days I just do not have time. Texting is great because people can respond on the go, unlike an email that might not be seen for a couple days. Just make sure you have a texting plan before you starting sending off missives to your new interest.

Beauty On The Inside

Beauty is truly on the inside for me. I am not saying I cannot appreciate a man or a woman for their physical appearance, but to me that is such a very miniscule thing. The first time I met someone I like to remember what they were doing, not if they were too tall, too large, etc. I truly believe you cannot judge a book by its cover, and I am not afraid to say so. I have had men tell me to my face that they do not think I am attractive, or worse that they think there are so many more attractive women in the world besides me, but they enjoy my personality. The latter comment was made to me by someone who I had only talked to online, so he could not even really know much about my personality at that point. My point is I know there are many opinions out there about what makes a woman attractive to a man, but I am going to say flat out who really cares. Everyone has a different opinion about attractive features, and focusing on the physical appearance is just really exhausting for me. I can appreciate the cute Aussie surfers on the beach in Waikiki, but since I am not dating them I really do not know what type of people they are. The first thing that is salient in my mind is are we going to have a great conversation, or will you just be another pretty face.

Within five minutes of meeting someone I can usually strike up a conversation and determine a few mutual interests. In the past my friends told me that some of my dates were down right ugly, but I never saw that. What I did see was oh this man is brilliant with math, and looks handsome with the exotic combination of blue eyes and black hair. At one time I was wearing a gold chain wiith a class ring that my boyfriend had given to me, and all my friend could talk about is what big fingers he must have. However, this friend also told me my hips were way too big back during a time when I was pretty slender. Looks were much more important to her than they were to me. I am not saying she is superficial because she was able to see deeper qualities in a person too, but she had a knack for making you feel really insecure about your body when shopping for clothes. As time passed I finally was able to desensitize myself to some of her comments regarding looks, but I do realize many men and women think like her.

Letting Go

I have tried to accept for years my life as a single girl will always be so. I am single, and I do not see that changing. Most week this is what I want, but other weeks I yearn to meet someone. Then when someone gets to know me and starts asking me about all the social activities they love, such as dancing, I realize being single is not so bad.

However, if you are going to meet someone online try the free websites and do not pay. Just my two cents! However, the one thing I am doing the last two days is learning to let go of all expectations, and see what happens. That is a new thing for me.